A 30-year-old man shared on Reddit that he was conflicted after his 26-year-old fiancée announced she wanted to quit her job just a month after their engagement. The two met at work—he’s a well-paid tech researcher, and she was in marketing. They got along well, especially since he appreciated her organizational skills, which helped with his ADD.
Things changed when she learned he earned 15 times her salary. They agreed to split expenses proportionally, and all seemed fine—until she requested a $15,000 engagement ring and began flaunting it. Then she dropped the news: she wanted to quit her job to focus on planning their wedding, saying she was burnt out. He was shocked, especially since they weren’t planning for kids yet and she still had student loans.
He suggested a short break but encouraged her to stay financially independent. That sparked a big argument—she felt unsupported, he felt abandoned. Social media users quickly labeled her a gold-digger and advised him to get a prenup.
Later, they had a calm dinner conversation. She admitted feeling her low income didn’t matter and confessed to burnout. She agreed to find a less demanding job or return to school after the wedding. He accepted the compromise but understood why others were skeptical. While he chose to trust her, Redditors warned him to protect himself legally in case she never worked again.
