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The last guy I liked ghosted me after I mentioned I raise chickens. I\u2019m thirty-six, run 160 acres solo\u2014corn, soybeans, Angus, bees\u2014and my love life isn\u2019t great. I want someone who doesn\u2019t flinch at manure or my independence.<\/p>\n
Last month, after a magazine feature, I got a message from Dimas, an Iowa farm guy. \u201cYour story made me smile,\u201d he wrote. No mention of my land\u2014just that I made him happy. We started chatting, then video calling, then talking for hours in the cab of my truck. Eventually, I invited him over. He brought his dog, tools, and tamales. He measured fences, fixed a coop, walked the land with me. No romance\u2014just rhythm and ease.<\/p>\n
Then I noticed his probing about my acreage, his cousin joking about \u201csnagging the jackpot.\u201d My gut warned me. I checked my documents; all solid. I realized I\u2019d been hoping someone wanted me, without asking what I wanted in return.<\/p>\n
I told Dimas I wanted a partner, not a passenger. He admitted he\u2019d lost his job, was weighing stability, but reached out because he saw strength in me\u2014not to be rescued. We paused. I focused on myself: farm work, mentoring young women in ag, hosting meetups.<\/p>\n
Dimas moved on. I met Haruto, quiet, kind, unafraid of my calluses. We take it slow.<\/p>\n
I learned: the right person isn\u2019t intimidated by your strength or drawn by your assets\u2014they just see you, and stay.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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