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My wife (28F) and I (30M) have been married for three years and generally have a good relationship. Before we got married, we agreed to remain childfree.<\/p>\n
However, after our wedding, she changed her mind and insisted on having a baby. Despite my reminders of our agreement, she continued to insist.<\/p>\n
I still strongly believed that I didn\u2019t want any children. So, to avoid unwanted drama, I secretly had a vasectomy last year. I didn\u2019t tell her because I felt justified since she had broken our initial agreement.<\/p>\n
A few months after my vasectomy, she came to me and proudly said she was pregnant. I was absolutely shocked and accused her of cheating, still without revealing my vasectomy. She thought my<\/p>\n
accusations were baseless and that I was losing my mind because I had been against having babies. Anyway, I insisted on a DNA test during her pregnancy,<\/p>\n
leaving her no choice but to agree. The big shock was when the results came out: it turned out the baby is mine, indicating that my vasectomy might not have been successful.<\/p>\n
I apologized repeatedly for accusing her of cheating but still didn\u2019t admit to having had the vasectomy. Now, she\u2019s incredibly distant and is considering divorce, believing I was more interested<\/p>\n
in accusing her of cheating than in the pregnancy. I\u2019m unsure whether to tell her about having had a vasectomy without her knowledge to justify why I thought she had cheated. Would revealing this now make<\/p>\n
things worse? How should we work through this, especially with a child on the way? I\u2019m completely lost and need your guidance on
\nthe best way to fix things. Sincerely,<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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